Monday, May 18, 2009

Confession is Good for the Soul

I have two confessions:
a) Last night I ran a game with three (then turned four) new gamers. I loved it.

b) I do not want to write anything after having downloaded visually so much powerful stuff from "Occasional Superheroine", Valerie D’Orazi's tell-all site, covering everything from her abusive father to her wounds (mental and physical), to her pain in trying to fit into the male-dominated industry of comics and finding her dreams turn into suicidal thoughts.

It is raw, funny, painful, and very understandable. Nope, she is not a Christian, but yep, she does listen to Christian radio and finds some of it good, though with caveats: when we forgive those who hurt us and 'let God deal with it' are we granting empowerment to the abusers? Doesn't this keep the cycle of abuse going? (Quick Answer: adults who can wound back need to forgive. Children - including "adult children" - need to go to a safe place and get healed FIRST.)

Her blog today was about the comic book shop were she worked at the tender age of 16 being torn down to the foundations. Like so many shops in the early 90's it was a cesspool of weirdness, of strange characters needing escape from their personal pain, of banal marketing that nearly crushed the life out of the industry as greed took over.

The worst part was the 'loss of innocence' that happened there. When what she discovered what she loved (comics) was not what motivated or captivated the shop owner's interest. She relates the exact wording and then discovers that another 'abusee' decided some come-uppance was in order. (Scroll down: ).

I like her. A lot.

(Valerie, you aren't going to read this, but after 'hearing your pain', and today's blog, I am reminded of that scene in Forest Gump when the shack Jenny was abused in was torn down. Between you and me, Jesus affirms what Buddhists call 'kharma'. You might want to read the book of Esther for the sheer fun of it.)

Y'all boys and girls out there readin' dem funny books have a good day, 'kay?



p.s. Remind me to tell you the time I was writing a series for young boys and was asked by two women editors if there were any "strong female characters" in it. When I replied I didn't really have that on the radar - it was to be for boys and it was about them becoming modern-day knights - I went from level-one talent to 'we'll email you when you become sensitive' status.

Still waiting for that e-mail.

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